Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Wisdom in the Home

Our best way to deal with our daily life is through listening for the wisdom which comes from within.

Our connection to our Source gives us unlimited access to the best ways to deal with any situation.

These can be simple situations of organizing our time, or more complex ones involving relationships at school.

We can be a good guide for our household members as we listen for wisdom and then take timely action.

Sometimes the action may involve others, but usually it involves getting a deep sense of peace within ourselves.

That adjusts the situation from within and it shows up on the outside.

A peaceful adjustment is the wise one.

It allows us ot approach any situation with the confidence that we will find a solution.

We move quietly throughout our day without judgement, istening for the solution.

At the right time, the solution shows up and we are able to implement it gently and with conviction.

A  peaceful approach allows us to receive wisdom.

We remove ourselves from the emotion and frustration and fear and quietly move into peace where we find wisdom.

This works at any time wherever we are.

It leads us to take the right steps to discover what is needed.

Even when there is confusion, we are able to find the information which is most relevant.

We are able to make the correction and redirect the action into productive activity.

There is no condemnation, just quiet, wise adjustment.

New good habits can be established in this way when emotional judgement is discarded.

We find our way and so do other family members.

We are living with the wise Guidance of the Universe Who Loves Us.

We embody the inner listening which Guides us.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage

www.shareinspirationandpeace.com 

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

 Giving Within the Family

Quite naturally, we give within the family.

We are always there to help and support on a daily basis.

Other family members respond naturally when help is needed.

We give each other our loving attention.

When tensions intrude, we know how to slow down and take a deep breath together.

We listen within.

We tune into the clarity that is needed.

We are able to find and direct the resources to the challenge at hand.

There is always a solution.

We stand ready through our routines, so that we can respond to unexpected situations.

We reach out for ideas through inner listening.

We see different family members come to each other’s aid at different times.

We receive the help we need when we ask for it.

Others take on more responsibility as they grow into their new roles.

The balance shifts so that all receive what is needed in appropriate ways.

When there is unity through inner listening, whatever is needed is supplied.

We naturally find ourselves responding in ways which do not deplete us, but energize the right balance.

We are not living hurried lives, but we are able to respond at the right time in the right ways.

We are not overwhelmed because we have a foundation of inner listening.

Everyone contributes in appropriate and uplifting ways.

We stand in our quiet conviction of balance and peace.

We take the tiny steps of action which contribute to peace.

Outer disturbances swirl in, and then out, as we respond only through our giving nature.

We give to the peace and we receive peace.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

www.shareinsirationandpeace.com 

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Newness Within the Family

Every time someone comes up with something new, everyone has to adjust to it.

We are all bringing home new ideas, some of which are a great fit, and others which are not.

As we digest what is coming into our home, we strain it through the filters of well-being for all.

It must include courtesies, uplifting vocabulary, aand add to peace and harmony.

It cannot create conflict, competition or be cruel.

Over time, we all refine what is appropriate to share within the family to maintain harmony, even while embracing what is new.

At one point, I was willing for my children to try out a new form of electronic game which they enjoyed at their friend’s house.

It created conflict since there was only room for two to play and we have a large family.

The vocabulary was acceptable. It was okay for them to play at their friends house. 

Another time, I was willing to check out a new children’s television channel. (This was before youtube, etc).

The channel content worked.  However, it kept my children indoors during daylight hours.  It was more important for them to have outdoor play time.

We played family games which encouraged participation for all of us.

Our philosophy as parents was to help everyone along in the game as we all gained competence.

Another activity which brought newness into our family was reading aloud.

We continued this in the form of audio books during family car trips. We still recount stories of unexpected moments in the stories.

We also remember dramatic moments when we were all held enthralled as we waited for the situation to be resolved.

Our shared emotions created times of mutual trust and intimacy.

Even though everyone has gone their own way and has their own view tempered with their new experiences, we have this remembered feeling as we all experienced something new together.

We can take in our new experiences in the world without judging where we are now compared to where we were in the past.

We can accept what is new and appreciate the freshness we felt through past shared experiences.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

www.shareinspirationandpeace.com 

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Now is the time for family harmony

Even with the best of routines to maintain harmonious space, there are sometimes conflicts.

Now is the best time to reestablish family harmony.

Hug each participant and sit them down and listen to them.

Acknowledge their discomfort and grievance.

Listen within for what to say.

Demonstrate your willingness to find a solution that is above and beyond your experience.

Invite each party to take a deep breath to move themselves into a peaceful state.

Sit quietly as you do this together.

Continue to listen.

Ask each person what they “heard” through their listening.

Listen some more.

Let the new discussion take place about what to do or how to act.

There is always a solution and it comes to each of us.

When we are willing to hear the higher view, it lifts us into it.

Differences create opportunities to move into harmony.

Teaching a listening stance is an important resource for everyone to practice.

It is different from imposing a decision based on the parent’s view.

The parent is aware of how inner listening solves challenges through their practice.

Other family members can be brought into this practical way of solving differences.

There is always time for a hug and for listening to the story, and then for listening within.

Calming down to create clarity of thought is a valuable step.

Because the solution is always available from a higher view, harmony is accessible right now.

Give yourself and your family members the gift of this practice.

Watch how a calming attitude leads toward resolution.

It is the quickest way to family harmony.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

www.shareinspirationandpeace.com 

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Passionate devotion to family

When we are raising a family, we are committed to their welfare.

This takes so many forms beyond food, shelter and clothing.

Our love has its own motivation and momentum.

We are able to go beyond normal efforts in order to find solutions to challenges.

It is best when we learn to take care of ourselves in order to maintain our family’s welfare.

The stabilizing influence of routines helps smooth out unexpected demands.

We invest rigorously in creating a safe and secure home.

As we learn to balance work and family, we are able to create nurturing relationships.

We learn new ways to organize the household.

We pay attention to healthy nourishment of household members.

We cultivate good manners.

We teach good personal hygiene.

We read aloud.

We teach and play family games.

We walk to the park for play.

We go on picnics.

We celebrate special occasions.

We address hurt feelings.

We support a quiet atmosphere for doing school work.

We are present and available.

We support healthy friendships.

We initiate family discussions.

We participate in community organizations.

We are grateful to give and receive love.

We are grateful for the growth in competence and responsibility which we have nurtured.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Teaching through Innocence

When we teach what is right and good and correct, we are teaching through innocence.

We build habits of purity and innocence by being clear in what and why and how we are teaching.

It is easy to build in the habit of making your bed first thing in the morning.

It is easy to build in the habit of being courteous.

It is easy to build in the habit of being honest.

We teach faithfulness by being consistent.

We teach good habits by being a good example.

Every time we overcome a bad habit, we are adding to the purity and innocence of our life.

Any time this affects other lives, we are adding to the purity and innocence of the world.

Good habits begin at home and go out into the world through our businesses and schools.

All our associations feel the power and energy of our purity and innocence.

They feel the quality of our interactions.

The feel the uplifting quality of our conversation.

They acknowledge the validity of our ideas and how we apply them.

We build good friendships through purity and innocence.

We know we can trust the people who value these qualities and express them.

We want to spend time together.

We want to do projects together.

We enjoy the uplifting quality of everything we do.

We enjoy sharing this feeling with others.

We draw to us those who appreciate purity and innocence.

We exclude what does not belong in our home by practicing uplifting qualities.

We relax in our expression of purity and innocence and the peace and happiness it brings us.

We extend this peace every time it is felt and recognized.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com

Young Persons’ Mentor / Uplifting Parenting –

Tasteful Behavior

We learn manners and courtesies in order to express respect for those we are dealing with.

It gives us a basis for common ground as we learn about the other person.

We provide room to get to know someone else and their point of view.

Whether we agree or not, we can respect that it came from their beliefs and experiences.

We can present our beliefs and experiences in a tasteful and respectful manner.

This shows where we are coming from.

We can discuss our opinions and learn from each other.

Communication is important.

We are sharing our space and our culture.

There is room for lots of variety as we discover our individual life possibilities.

We can respect the  fact that everyone needs respect and a feeling of worth.

We are able to contribute to one another’s life as we realize this.

We do not live as well in isolation as we do in community.

We are able to accomplish more as part of a community.

Our skills and our ability to learn new skills are an important part of our community.

We all have gifts and knowledge to share and to receive.

We expand our viewpoint and our ability to make a contribution as we value one another.

We welcome the opportunity to learn more and to express ourselves better.

This enlivens our community and gives us more to share and to celebrate together.

It takes people out of loneliness and sadness through isolation.

It defuses tensions when we know and value our neighbors.

We extend a feeling of peace throughout our neighborhood.

There is always room for more caring through attitudes and action.

Getting to know each other brings out our common ground and our common good through working together.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

My body belongs to me

The body’s perfect design connects you with it in a perfect way.

You know exactly what to do to take care of your body.

You practice this in an optimum way as you become aware of what is best for your particular body.

Your body functions best when you maintain a good balance for it.

You release yourself from food addictions, and you create fun ways to move.

Your body belongs to you.

Despite social conditioning, a woman is the only one who can hear from within, what is good for her body.

She is the one who can judge how to balance her life.

The tools which enable her to do this are for her to evaluate.

Women all over the world are challenged to maintain a good balance.

Women all over the world are worthy to take care of themselves in the best ways.

Women empower themselves by their attention to their needs.

They are aware of personal cycles, seasonal cycles, birth cycles, needs for their children and household and needs for their work.

Living from awareness inside your body, you know how to sustain it to take care of it and to give service in all these aspects.

A man empowers himself through utilizing society’s attitudes and the tools which come from it.

A woman empowers herself by challenging the limitations society places on her.

Through cooperative values, both gender’s and society’s attitudes can be brought into harmonious balance.

Through honoring both genders, society can provide real aid and comfort.

Communities will benefit, businesses will benefit, the world will benefit.

Sustainable productivity follows happiness when the body is honored and balanced.

When you raise your children to honor their body, you give them power.

They are able to live in a way which builds habits of care.

They are able to balance their productive lives in harmonious and happy ways.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifting Parenting –

Teaching and Delivering on Trust

We learn to teach trust as we become more trusting in our inner listening.

While we are raising a family or running a household, we are dealing with many new and demanding situations.

The only way to figure out what to do is to trust.

We may trust in others’ experiences and advice, but at some point we will have to find our own way.

As we discern how to take care of various situations, we teach these ways to our children.

We see the results and so do they.

We build on our foundation of trust.

When we need to find a new way, we can, by using the same process of inner listening.

Regardless of other’s views, the way to trust is through our own individual and collective inner listening.

That is the way we come to agreement about our particular situations.

We build a little larger foundation.

\When there are disruptive elements, we may have to disengage for a period of time while we work them out.

Then, with the interest in continuing the family harmony, more inner listening teaches a new view with new steps to take to add to the foundation.

This is an evolving process as we weigh what we want with what we are willing include and willing to discard.

The trust that we feel within ourselves and toward each other is based on the secure foundation of inner listening.

We are used to the feeling of peace when we sense the best direction for us.

That is the main goal, trusting the sense of peace.

Then we can deliver our best relationships based on the present.

Everyone grows as we make honest observations and release what is not useful from the past.

We build on trust out of our desire for good family relationships.

We observe and we keep adding to a sound and productive foundation.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com

Young Persons Mentor/Uplifted Parenting –

Home Organization

I see those who can create the comfort of home through organization as miraculous.

Those approaches which include everyone in the household are best.

Everyone makes a contribution in a unified way to create a good feeling.

One of my heroes is the mother of two of my students.

Her gentle approach with her children, whom she was also homeschooling, was very consistent.

When I visited their home to give some extra lessons, I saw the most beautiful layout of curriculum materials for the children.

Another hero of home organization is FLYlady.net.  (Finally Loving Yourself)

She starts with one simple task and it is always her referral point.

Her way of supporting those who follow her schedule is very uplifting and funny and light-hearted.

She is real and down-to-earth.

Her skills are possible for anyone to do in fiteen minute increments.

It took me several months, but I was able to reduce all the paperwork lying around in stacks in my house to a small, manageable, current amount.

I appreciate the fact that “stuff” can be managed.

It can be prioritized. It can be released.

We need only to surround ourselves with beautiful, meaningful things.

We can discard what is too overwhelming to take care of.

We can free ourselves for more enjoyment with less clutter.

Step-by-step we can build consistency in how we care for our home.

Step-by-step, we teach our children their part, and increase it as they are ready to assume more responsibility.

Step-by step, we feel the relief of more freedom and happiness.

Step-by-step we do more fun activities.

We become our own heroes of home organization.

© 2023 Kathryn Hardage 

http://www.shareinspirationandpeace.com